Author Archives: sultanahayat84

Boundaries – Don’t Cross the Line!

There are many reasons why people are unable to set clear boundaries with others, whether its family, friends or work colleagues we can all struggle from time to time regarding what is a clear healthy boundaries or what are unhealthy or rigid.  Some of the reasons include but aren’t limited to; living in an unstableContinue reading “Boundaries – Don’t Cross the Line!”

Anxiety – is my fear rational?

In the past year there are many things that have and are still causing us sleepless nights. This includes but isn’t limited to financial worries, fear of illness, lack of support or feeling isolated and even worrying that your loved ones or even you may become ill with covid. The worries tend to mount andContinue reading “Anxiety – is my fear rational?”

Disappointment – Is it just another word to describe Adulthood?

2020 has been a year full of disappointment, fear and for some loss and heartache. But as we tip toe into the new year I find myself wondering how we have dealt with the last year and the disappointments we have had to face. For most holidays have been cancelled, events postponed and celebrations halted,Continue reading “Disappointment – Is it just another word to describe Adulthood?”

The death of a loved one

Today it’s been 11 years since we (my family and I) lost my eldest sister. Her battle with cancer was short but it was lethal. Within being diagnosed a month later she was gone.  Each year I find the anniversary of her death difficult. Anyone who has ever lost a loved one will agree thatContinue reading “The death of a loved one”

Loss – “Pull yourself together!”

Today I want to talk about loss of relationships, whether it’s a Partner, friendship, or even family members such as sibling or parent and the individual is still very much alive and well. How do you deal with such a loss? Does the process of grief still apply? When someone is taken away from us,Continue reading “Loss – “Pull yourself together!””

When was the last time you scanned your Body?

We tend to notice things around, us such as the weather, the traffic, the environment we are in but we forget about the body we occupy. Have you ever noticed how when you are stressed your body feels all tight and wound up? That is because we carry our emotions within our body. It canContinue reading “When was the last time you scanned your Body?”

Cookie Breathing – An Aroma that takes me to a happier place.

One of the things I noticed when I have moments when I am feeling anxious is that I can’t be present, in the moment. When I am feeling anxious I find myself follow the thousands of thoughts down the dark rabbit hole and as a result I feel lost and agitated. Mindfulness is an amazingContinue reading “Cookie Breathing – An Aroma that takes me to a happier place.”

The Waiting Game – My Quest to Inner Peace Continues

How often is it that we stand in a queue, or are waiting for an appointment and we become impatient. I always notice that people, including myself, tend to distract ourselves with either our mobile phones, reading posters or flyers, or by getting annoyed that the queue is long. I guess the appeal of pullingContinue reading “The Waiting Game – My Quest to Inner Peace Continues”

Mindfulness – How to Shine a light

I have always tried to include an element of mindfulness into my therapy practice. It is a useful tool when working with clients who suffer from anxiety, which can include but not limited to; worrying thoughts, feel overwhelmed and pressured to do things outside of their comfort zone.  You may have heard about mindfulness butContinue reading “Mindfulness – How to Shine a light”